The Top 10 Emotional Intelligence Books To Transform Your Life

Emotional Intelligence 

Just having intellectual prowess alone isn’t enough to navigate the complexities of life and this is where emotional intelligence comes to play. It helps people to manage challenges and connect deeply with others. It also offer a roadmap to self-discovery, emotional mastery, social skills, empathy and personal transformation.

While this comes natural to some individual, others do not possess it. However, like any other skill, it can be learned and developed throughout your life.

Transforming Books On Emotional Intelligence 

10.    The Gifts of Imperfection – Brene Brown

Brené Brown’s “The Gifts of Imperfection” is more than just a self-help book; it’s an invitation to a transformative journey of self-acceptance and vulnerability. Published in 2010, this 137-page gem has resonated with millions of readers worldwide, offering a path towards embracing authenticity and wholehearted living.

The book’s central message is simple yet profound: letting go of perfectionism and embracing our imperfections is the key to greater happiness and meaningful connections. Brown challenges societal norms that equate worth with achievement and flawlessness, arguing that vulnerability, courage, and self-compassion are the true drivers of a fulfilling life.

9.    Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t StopTalking – Susan Cain

This nonfiction book by Susan Cain was published in 2012 and sparked a cultural conversation by challenging the prevailing “extrovert ideal.” The book goes beyond merely describing introverts but explores introversion is a distinct and valuable personality trait which is often misunderstood and undervalued in a society that rewards extroversion.

The author also explores the psychological makeup of introverts and give insights into their preference for quieter environments, deeper reflection, and focused thinking. She contrasts this with the extroverted ideal that is often celebrated for its energy, sociability, and risk-taking nature.

8.    The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Stephen R. Covey

This is a self-help classic that has sold over 25 million copies worldwide and its not hard to see why. In this book Stephen R. Covey outlines seven principles that are essential for achieving personal and professional success.

  •  Take responsibility for your life and your choices. Don’t be a victim of your circumstances.
  • Define your goals and values before you start taking action. What do you want to achieve in your life?
  • Prioritize your tasks and activities based on their importance, not just their urgency.
  • Seek mutually beneficial solutions in all your interactions.
  • Listen to others with empathy and try to see things from their perspective before trying to communicate your own point of view.
  • Value the differences of others and work together to create something greater than what you could achieve alone.
  • Continuously renew yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, socially, and emotionally.

7.  Emotional Intelligence For Sales Success – Colleen Stanley

In this book, Collen Stanley explores how honing your EQ can significantly boost your sales results. Even though technical knowledge and product expertise are important, she argues that emotional intelligence (EQ) has emerged as a powerful differentiator that separates top performers from other their competitors.

Collen also adds that having emotional intelligence helps to better understand and managing emotions – both your own and your customers.

6. Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving Your Emotional Intelligence – Michael Cornwall

Asides from Michael Cornwall’s provocative title, this book  promises to offer strategies for improving emotional intelligence (EQ). It gives insights on using cognitive skill-building techniques to enhance emotional intelligence.

5. Thinking Fast and Slow –  Daniel Kahneman

In this book, Kahneman explores the fascinating world of our two distinct thinking systems: System 1 and System 2. He explores how we make decisions, navigate challenges, and ultimately understand ourselves better.

According to him, System 1 is the fast, automatic, and often emotional side of our thinking. This system helps to guide our intuition, reactions, and judgments in everyday situations. However, it can be prone to biases and heuristics, leading to errors in judgment.

In contrast, System 2 is slow, deliberate, and logical. It’s responsible for conscious reasoning, problem-solving, and complex calculations. Regardless, it requires significant mental effort and is easily fatigued.

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4. Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence – Daniel Goleman, Richard E. Boyatzis, and Annie McKee

Daniel Goleman has his way around emotional intelligence and alongside Richard Boyatzis and Annie McKee, they argue that leaders who master their own emotions and understand the emotions of others can create more positive, productive, and successful organizations.

The book also identifies six primary leadership styles based on emotional intelligence such as Visionary, Coaching, Affiliative, Democratic, Pacesetting, and Commanding. Each style has its strengths and weaknesses, and effective leaders use a blend of styles depending on the situation.

3. How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie

Even though this book by Dale Carnegie was published in 1936, its principles transcend time and continues to offer valuable insights on building positive relationships and achieving success in various aspects of life.

The book core message lies on genuine connection and understanding. It further explores how cultivating positive habits that foster trust, respect, and empathy, which would mutually beneficial relationships. He gives six proven ways to make people like you, 12 ways to win people to your thinking, and nine ways to change people without causing resentment.

2. The Emotionally Intelligent Manager – David R. Caruso and Peter Salovey

In this book, the authors argue that emotional intelligence (EQ) is not just important for individuals, but also for effective leadership. They propose a four-part framework for developing and using key EQ skills to navigate the complex world of management.

  • Identifying Emotions
  • Using Emotions
  • Understanding Emotions
  • Managing Emotions

1. Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ – Daniel Goleman

This is another book by Daniel Goleman that gives new insights into the rational and emotional minds of people. He challenges the overreliance on IQ as the sole indicator of success. While cognitive abilities are important, they’re only part of the equation.

The book introduces the concept of emotional intelligence (EQ), encompassing, Self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills.


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